Speaking to Children about Divorce
Sometimes we all get caught up in the lows and the emotions of divorce and inadvertently tell our children more than we should about what is going on between mum and dad during the divorce. We are all guilty of it at different times even in general life. I recently saw this post from “The Conscious Parent” on social media; and I thought she had some valuable and helpful suggestions for when you are talking to your children with what they should know and what your children should not know about their parents’ divorce.
Really, kids just want to know what is going to affect them and what is going to affect their life. The kids do not want to know all the awful details of what is going on between their parents. They do not want to know that mum or dad refused to pay for something; that it is costing mum and dad a huge amount of money over legal fees; that one parent was in a relationship before the end of their parents’ marriage. The kids just want to feel loved by both parents and have as calm a life as possible whilst their parents weather the storm of divorce.
Of course, you are still allowed to feel what you feel. If you are feeling distressed and you need to vent and speak with someone then a therapist and a divorce coach can help you move forward during these stressful times.
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